7 Lies Christians Believe About Forgiveness (and the Truth That Sets You Free)
Tidy clichés keep us stuck. This post cuts through seven common myths about forgiveness with Scripture—and shows a practical way forward that names the debt, releases it to God, and walks in freedom.
My Journey from Bitterness to Healing (And How You Can Start Yours)
Bitterness felt like armor—until it started choking my joy. This honest story walks through naming what was taken, releasing the debt to Jesus, and taking a simple first step you can try tonight.
Can You Forgive Without Reconciliation? (An Honest Look at Freedom and Wisdom)
Yes—you can forgive even if the relationship doesn’t come back. Scripture centers reconciliation to God; from that grace you can release the debt, hold wise boundaries, and accept that some doors may stay closed.
What the Bible Really Says About Forgiveness (Not the Myths)
We toss “forgiveness” around like it’s a switch. Scripture says otherwise. This post cuts through myths and shows a practical, biblical path to release the debt, keep wise boundaries, and find peace.
Why Forgiveness Is for You (Not Just for Them)
Forgiveness doesn’t just release the person who hurt you—it releases you. This article explores why forgiveness is a path to freedom and peace, rooted in God’s truth.
How Do You Truly Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply?
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting—or pretending it didn’t hurt. If you’ve been wounded deeply, this article explores a faith-based path to real healing and freedom through Christ.
HALF-LIE: Forgiving gives the person room to hurt me again
If you reconcile, it is wise to guard yourself. It is important to take the relationship through a process of building trust to restore the relationship, just as Joseph did with his brothers. It is important to consider boundaries or ways to protect ourselves when we continue with the relationships.
LIE: I need to tell the person I forgive them
Forgiveness is something that is between you and God, the offender has nothing to do with it. If the conversation calls for it, the person asks forgiveness or seeks to mend the relationship, it might be the right time to say that you have forgiven or do forgive someone.
LIE: If I Forgive, I have to reconcile
It comes down to reconciliation as a choice, not a must. It would seem to be easier to reconcile if the person is repentant. But in all honesty, it is not always as easy as a ‘choice’.
LIE: Forgiveness must be earned
TRUTH: Forgiveness is a free gift that helps me heal, and actually does nothing for the offender.
LIE: Forgiveness is a feeling
Forgiveness is not a miracle; it miraculously works in us. But the decision to forgive does not immediately alter everything.
LIE: Forgive = Forget
With forgiveness, we do not forget, but the memories no longer trigger pain and no longer control our actions. With forgiveness, we are cut free from the pain.
LIE: ‘It’s okay’ is a good answer to ‘I’m sorry.’
Whatever the person did, big or small, it is NOT okay that they did it. It might be that everything is okay between him/her and me, but that does not make what they did ok. So, let’s stop saying ‘it’s ok’ in response to an apology or request for forgiveness. How do we respond to ‘I’m sorry’, then? Here’s how to open the conversation
LIE: Forgiveness lets the offender off the hook
It is a common thing to hear, or think, ‘She deserves punishment, so I’m not going to forgive until she has paid.’ With forgiveness, God steps in to hold the hook on the offender.
Alive Again Coming Soon!
Alive Again is coming soon! I wanted to give you some information about the book and invite you to join the Advance Reader-Reviewer Group.